Wish You Weren’t Here: How Not to Fall Out With Travel Buddies

Friends might seem like a great way to have fun and explore new areas. You’ll do lots of eating, drinking, laughing, and sightseeing together and it will be great. However, especially if you’re used to traveling solo, it can be a complete minefield! So many friendships have been ended by an ill-judged decision to getaway as a group. In fact, it’s so common that I’ve put together some tips to help you ensure that you stay firm friends with your travel buddies during and after your next trip…


Keep the Travel Party Small
You’re much more likely to experience arguments and fallouts when you travel with a large party, simply because there are more personalities, and therefore more opportunities for clashes to take place. You might think that the more people who come along, the cheaper the experience will be, but if your trip is ruined by arguments, the it doesn’t matter how little you paid for it, it won’t have been worth it.

Plan Together
You might have decided on a destination, but if you think you can take control and plan everything from now on, or let one or more of your friends do it all for you, think again. Just because you’ve agreed on a destination, doesn’t mean that you’ll agree on who to fly with, where to stay and what to do while you’re there, which is why you should all sit down and plan every detail of the trip together.

Compromise
The only ways that you’re going to avoid a fall out while you’re vacationing with friends is if you’re willing to compromise. You might want to spend every day trying the local cuisine and checking out the cultural sights, like the ones at http://www.worldofwanderlust.com/1, but other members of your party might be more interested in getting drunk on the beach and visiting the local waterpark, if you want to avoid conflict,then you’re all going to have to compromise at least some of the time.

Choose Your Travel Companions Wisely
Of course, if compromise really isn’t your thing, then only ever accepting mutual travel offers from friends who you know are totally on the same wavelength and want to do the same things as you is a good way to have your cake and eat it.

Find a Spacious Place to Stay
As someone who isn’t averse to solo travel, you might be fine with bunking up with strangers in far-flung hostels. In fact, you might have met some of your best friends that way. However, when you’re traveling with friends, it can be a bit different. If you’re stuck in close proximity with them for too long, everything they do can get on your nerves and arguments are inevitable. That’s why it’s much better to book an apartment like the ones at http://rumahdijual.com/makassar/apartemen, or ensure that you all have your own hotel rooms so that you always have a place to retreat to. Trust me; it’ll make the world of difference.

Pay Upfront
I know it can be difficult to talk about money with friends, but if you’re going on a trip together, then you really should ensure that you all pay your share for flights, hotel rooms and any pre-booked excursions you’ll be making upfront. Money, as I’m sure you will know, is one of the most common causes of argument in any situation, but when you’re traveling, and someone lets you down by not paying their fair share, well things can get pretty heated, and not because of the sunshine.

Do Your Own Thing
Just because you’re traveling as a group doesn’t mean that you can’t get off and do your own thing for a while. In fact, ensuring that you don’t pre-plan so many things to do that you’ll barely get a second away from each other is a recipe for disaster. Before jetting off to your destination of choice, make it very clear that you won’t be spending every second with your friends and that as long as you all meet for lunch or dinner, for example, everything else is negotiable.


Let Things Go
I know that this is much easier said than done, but if you’re traveling with friends and you want them to still be friends when you get back home, then you need to practice some self-restraint and let those small issues you have with them and their behavior go. Obviously, if they’re doing something really awful or dangerous, then you might have to speak out, but otherwise, keep your mouth shut, go for a long walk on the beach and let the worries drain away. Remember, that there is no one as capable of ruining your vacation as you are and it is the way you react to situations that will determine how well things go.

Have a Plan B
That being said, if you’ve never traveled with these people before, and so you don’t know how you’ll get on in a new situation, then it might be worth having a pLan B in place, so that if things go wrong and you really can’t stand to be around them for a moment longer, or you do end up falling out big style, you can get yourself out of the situation. This could be as simple as booking a flexible ticket or traveling to a place where you have friends who’d be happy to house you when your best friend is at your throat. Hopefully, you’ll never need to use it, but if you can get yourself out of a situation before it escalates too far, you might just be able to save a friendship that looks to be on the way out.

Traveling with friends can be amazing, and you probably think that it will be, but it’s unlikely to be the case if you don’t heed this advice and at least try to minimize any possible reasons for discord that could crop up, then, hopefully, you won’t be saying ‘Wish you weren’t here’ to someone you really care about.

This post is a collaborative effort. While not written by me, Diane, I liked the content enough to publish it here on Wife with Baggage. I hope it encourages, educates and entices you to travel more!

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